The “Hot Iron” Lesson

Have you ever burned yourself by accident with a hot iron, a cooking pan, or scalding water? It’s not fun, and you would never purposely do this.

Last week, I let this happen to me in the emotional sense. I found myself being affected by things that are beyond my control.

One of the experiences that affected was a misbehavior problem that happened as I was trying to start my last class of the day. Even though I know that managing misbehavior is part of the job, sometimes, I become frustrated with (and tired of) having to deal with misbehavior and disrespect, especially during the last hours of the school day.

Because of that, it has always been very important to me to take care of myself, so that I don’t become an angry and mean teacher. This teaching job requires one to forgive, to not take things personally, and to start with a blank page every day.

Sometimes though, the things that happen at school affect me more than they should. I find that guided meditation usually helps me clear my head and feel my emotions. This also helps me look at situations differently. 

For me, remaining calm during the day is super important because I have 6 classes. I try to not let the “negative” things that happen throughout the day affect how I teach.

During a meditation session, I felt that holding on to the misbehavior experience was like holding a hot iron. I knew I needed to let go of it to stop “burning” myself. In order to remain calm and peace within myself, I’m learning that I can’t hold on to the experiences that I can’t control like my students’ attitude and behavior.

5 thoughts on “The “Hot Iron” Lesson

  1. Control is illusion , We like to think many of us are in control predict the causation and effect that is nothing more then mirage . Sometimes the only to learn and endure is going through the storms that wreak havoc and send our lives into violent chaos.

    Think you can overcome obstacles by subsiding them or deflecting off you as if it has no merit or presence only to realized that there’s a boomerang effect .I’m learning this first hand and confronting it because for so long I have no let nothing stop me that has cross my path .

    Never Surrender to the “S T O R M”

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  2. I admire your willingness and ability to look at yourself in this way, your honesty with yourself. Many years ago I trained to be a therapist and then worked as one briefly, and I relate very much to what you have written here. Unexpected emotional experiences were what I came to expect, sometimes on a daily basis. Before that, after leaving my first career as a reporter, I did something completely different and worked as a caretaker, working in the homes of wheelchair bound adults, and in that job, which changed my life definitely for the better, I often felt that I was unprepared for the sudden emotional surprises that seemed to happen on any given day. Meditation seems to be a very good learning experience for you.

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    • Thank you :)! I’ve always wondered what it’d be like to work as a therapist. I’m happy your caretaker job changed your life for the better! I think when I step back and to reflect at how I’ve changed because of my job, I feel the same way. So much growth.

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  3. How on time since I spilled boiling water on myself today. It was just a couple of drops, so all good.

    You draw a great comparison. I think it’s very important what you do. You don’t want to take out your frustrations (from previous class) on kids who haven’t done anything. And they surely don’t deserve a lesser teaching standard because of the misbehaved kids. It can’t be easy for you. But I hope you can pull it off!

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