Stop causing your own stress. Seriously. Stop.

Self-caused stress is the leading cause of tense shoulders and trouble falling asleep. This is true for me. Are you causing your own stress, too?

I had a major realization the week before I visited my family in Oklahoma this last week of November. If I was stressed before I left for a week of vacation, it was because I was causing my own darn stress.

You’re probably thinking: well, life IS supposed to be stressful. *Cue in the sound effect of a wrong-answer buzzer*. No, life doesn’t have to be stressful all of the time

In reflection, I realized that there are strategies I can use to be less stressed.

If you ever find yourself in the same patterns of behavior that bring unnecessary stress, below are 3 strategies you can use to find a sense of peace 🕊️ and calm as you tackle your day-to-day, to-do lists.

1. give yourself enough time to do what’s important

In other words, stop putting things off till the end. Become diligent and disciplined when it comes to doing what’s important. 

Notice that I wrote “what’s important” not “every single thing on your to-do list”.

If you’re anything like me, some of the things on your to-do list never get checked off anyway. Hence, only the important things ever get done.

2. strive to do your best, not your most perfect

Don’t get hung up on striving to do your most perfect. There will always be a reason to say that things didn’t come out perfect. Because there will always be a better perfect.

Strive to do your best by giving it your all and by being satisfied at the end of the day with your best effort. Give yourself credit for all of things you accomplished today!

#3. You don’t have do ANYTHING to be productive

You don’t have to do a single thing in order to be productive. Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is take a break because your mind, body, & spirit need breaks to help refresh you.

When you hit the pause button ⏸️, you find strength, inspiration, and lightness that helps keep you at your most productive.

There will always be a new problem to tackle or something to complain about. Just make sure that you’re not causing yourself unnecessary stress.

12 thoughts on “Stop causing your own stress. Seriously. Stop.

  1. Three tips how not to cause own stress are great! I like all of them but especially the last tip. Sometimes I feel that I am an achiever and that makes all things worse. I perhaps should try more often to hit the pause button.
    Best wishes to your from me.

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    • Thank you for your best wishes, Kaya! I totally understand on having that achiever quality. I think I have it, too 🙂 And I agree that it sometimes makes things worse. Yes, definitely good to make those pauses every now and then! Best wishes to you too! ✨


    • Alex,

      (I’m not sure if your comments are spam. Most of the time I have trouble understanding them and how they relate to the posts.)

      Assuming they’re not, I totally agree with taking it day by day.

      Feeling grateful and blessed to be alive is so easy to forget sometimes when one is focused on trivial matters–some of those every-day stresses that don’t mean nothing at the end of our lives.

      There are definitely things that are out of your control that happen in your life, that in your words “some you wished you never live through and endured”.

      These things don’t form the best memories and leave scars that take so much time, perspective, understanding, and emotional maturity to heal.

      And even though it’s masked as hard work, it’s so worth it to do the healing work.

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  2. Great post, Andrea! 🙂

    I love that first image with the list “wake up, coffee, the rest.” Very cute… and true for me!

    Yes, I am like you, some of the things on the list don’t seem to ever get checked off… I just keep moving them on to the next list! 🙂

    Love your strategies… I especially liked your adorable little visual for the pause button!

    Thanks for all your positive energies, they are much appreciated.

    With love,
    Teja ❤

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  3. Very sound advice and tips! Especially these days it’s easy to cause yourself some extra stress what with the holidays soon being upon us. 😂
    Tense shoulders and lack of sleep sound only too familiar. 😂

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