Stop causing your own stress. Seriously. Stop.

Self-caused stress is the leading cause of tense shoulders and trouble falling asleep. This is true for me. Are you causing your own stress, too?

I had a major realization the week before I visited my family in Oklahoma this last week of November. If I was stressed before I left for a week of vacation, it was because I was causing my own darn stress.

You’re probably thinking: well, life IS supposed to be stressful. *Cue in the sound effect of a wrong-answer buzzer*. No, life doesn’t have to be stressful all of the time

In reflection, I realized that there are strategies I can use to be less stressed.

If you ever find yourself in the same patterns of behavior that bring unnecessary stress, below are 3 strategies you can use to find a sense of peace 🕊️ and calm as you tackle your day-to-day, to-do lists.


1. give yourself enough time to do what’s important

In other words, stop putting things off till the end. Become diligent and disciplined when it comes to doing what’s important. 

Notice that I wrote “what’s important” not “every single thing on your to-do list”.

If you’re anything like me, some of the things on your to-do list never get checked off anyway. Hence, only the important things ever get done.

2. strive to do your best, not your most perfect

Don’t get hung up on striving to do your most perfect. There will always be a reason to say that things didn’t come out perfect. Because there will always be a better perfect.

Strive to do your best by giving it your all and by being satisfied at the end of the day with your best effort. Give yourself credit for all of things you accomplished today!

#3. You don’t have do ANYTHING to be productive

You don’t have to do a single thing in order to be productive. Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is take a break because your mind, body, & spirit need breaks to help refresh you.

When you hit the pause button ⏸️, you find strength, inspiration, and lightness that helps keep you at your most productive.


There will always be a new problem to tackle or something to complain about. Just make sure that you’re not causing yourself unnecessary stress.