How to stop taking things personally


“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you,” says Don Miguel Ruiz. Part of your misery is optional. Taking things personally is a choice. When you stop taking things personally, you feel peaceful and free 🕊️.

When you’re so used to taking things personally, it takes effort and time to get out of the habit of not taking things personally.

Not taking things personally means living in the present moment, staying conscious of the roots behind people’s behavior, and choosing to accept, empathize with, and forgive.

Be present in the moment

Get out of your mind by stopping the train of thought, and be present in the moment. Being present in the moment keeps you from worrying about what others think 💭 of you such as if they’re judging you.

What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

by Don Miguel Ruiz from The Four Agreements

Stay conscious

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How a person acts and what they believe has to do with how they grew up, their history, and what they’re currently going through.

When you show up to the world in all the different ways that you show up to your job, your family, or the grocery store, stay conscious.

Remember that what people say and do stems from the type of day that they’re having to the current problems that they’re facing.

People’s behavior and their words have roots that we can’t see. You’re better able to see these roots when you remember that people’s actions and words go deeper than the surface. When you’re conscious of this, you learn to respect versus judge people’s journeys.

Accept, empathize, forgive

Be ready to accept, empathize, and forgive.

We all have different beliefs about the world, different expectations, and different priorities. Accept that we’re all different.

Empathize when you notice that someone is on a path you’ve been before. Sooner or later, it will be their choice to learn from the life lesson.

Be there for them.

Forgive people even if they don’t know that what they say and do is hurtful.

When people are hurting, we need to love them more gently and always without judgement.


As we co-create the reality that is this world 🌎, not everything people do or say will satisfy you. Not because you don’t deserve happiness, but because everyone is free to say and do what they want.

Everyone’s free to create a world within themselves that varies to the world everyone else creates within themselves.

You are not in this world. The world is inside you.

by Nisargadatta Maharaj

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8 thoughts on “How to stop taking things personally

  1. Yes, Andrea!

    Great points… I especially resonate with the “stay conscious” part, because I always try to remember that people are wounded to varying degrees, and when they are behaving poorly, it’s very likely that they haven’t healed their wounds… So then a lot of compassion and understanding arise, and it’s much easier to not take it personally.

    I like how you phrased it, about the roots we can’t see. Very beautiful. ❤

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