Why you shouldn’t fall into the self-improvement trap

Since self improvement doesn’t have an end, there’ll always be a thing or two that you can do to improve yourself. Don’t fall into the self-improvement trap. If you do, you start believing that you’re not worthy or beautiful until you change.

You’re worthy and beautiful right at this moment despite your current imperfections.

When you accept yourself completely as you are in this moment, you stop judging yourself for all the “negative” things that make you you. The “negative things” are things like your impatience, your horrible listening skills, or your low self confidence.

When you accept yourself completely as you are in this moment, you learn to be gentle and patient with yourself as you transform into the type of person that you’ve always wanted to be.

When you accept yourself completely as you are in this moment, you see beauty and worth in everyone despite their current imperfections.

“Never be afraid” photo by Allie Smith on Unsplash

You delve in your heart,

you search for answers without finding clarity.

A change in your reality demands that you accept death within yourself, death within the story of your life.

Change, even good change, comes with loss, grief, and a flood of tears.

You change. You lose part of your identity.

Everything that you lost becomes a memory. There’s nothing you can do to recreate the past version of yourself and the past version of your life story.

Change demands you to grow, to let go of what no longer is, and to accept the new season of your life.

The grief that comes with change teaches you something about life: how to have a sense of humor when the struggle is real, how to live with all of the questions that you can’t find the answers to.

Letting go of your old self, of your old life story–however painful–is necessary to help you welcome new experiences into your life. To help you welcome experiences that you never thought were possible.

Like breaking in new shoes, the new you, your new life story takes some time to get used to.

Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”

Rainer Maria Rilke