5 Reasons to Show Up When You Don’t Want To

If you ever felt like giving up, you know the struggle of showing up when you don’t feel like it. I’ve been there many times, too. Do you remember all of the times that you chose to keep going? When you choose to persevere, you experience the benefits of showing up.

1. Everything gets easier when you face a difficult task

When you complete a difficult task life gets easier. The next time a difficult task comes around, you have the mindset and skills to face the new task. If you ever feel like giving up, keep going. I promise you that in the end you’ll be rewarded for your effort. You’ll be glad that you faced your fears and life’s challenges.

2. Think of all of the hard work you’ve put in

Have you ever taken an unplanned break from blogging and regretted it so much? 🙋🏽 If you’re a blogger you probably already know that consistency is key to having a successful blog. If you ever need motivation to show up, remember all of the hard work you’ve put into your projects.

Look at all of the milestones you’ve reached. Look at the abundance of completed tasks and goals that resulted from the days when inspiration and motivation were abundant. Let your previous work inspire and motivate you!

3. You make a difference even when you don’t think you do

We are selfish when we get stuck in the belief that we’re not good enough to share our gifts and talents with the world. Maybe you are a phenomenal singer or an excellent listener. Maybe you have advanced math skills or you are an exceptional debater.

Remember the comments and feedback you’ve received about how much your work matters to others. These comments highlight your strengths. Use them as fuel to help you reach your next goal.

One of the mysteries of life is that we will never know the extent of the impact we’re making on the world and how that impact affects future generations. Remember that making a difference doesn’t mean changing all of the world but making a positive difference in the lives of people already present in your life.

4. You’ll learn something new

When you show up, you don’t miss the opportunities you have to learn from life. The life lessons tend to repeat themselves until you take in what they have to teach you or gift you such as a new perspective, knowledge, mindset, mentor, or skill.

5. You’ll learn to be disciplined

Curiously enough, showing up even when you don’t want to teaches you something that comes in handy in all aspects of life and that something is discipline. Blogging wise, I once published a post that I thought wasn’t going to get a lot of views because I didn’t write it out of inspiration. It ended up getting a fair share of views. It was one of those days in which I had posted out of discipline instead of out of inspiration, and it worked out just the same.

Showing up helps you build endurance. You’ll find that things get easier as you keep moving forward. When you don’t feel like showing up for yourself, consider showing up for others. You’ll make someone’s day better! Showing up also gives you opportunities to learn such as how to be consistent. May these reasons inspire you to show up in full confidence of your strengths, experience, and ability to grow.

Regrets of the dying & What’s the Perfect Writer Path?

On having a sinus infection

Life’s been feeling pretty weird lately. Despite the warm weather, I’ve been suffering from a sinus infection all week. Today, I took pseudoephedrine which I think is fixing my breathing problems. I’ve been breathing through my mouth, sneezing, and becoming a bit crabby because of my annoyance with being sick and feeling weak. I’ve also been using nasal rinses, nasal spray, and VaporRub. 

Life feels weird because I’m not supposed to feel this energy-depleted within these sunny days.

New Blogging Mindset

My blogging mindset has changed: I’m finding it easier to draft multiple posts in one sitting. That pressure, that looming deadline of posting four times a week is getting real. Sometimes I have no idea what to talk about. I’m finally seeing how blogging can feel like work.

I’m exploring the paths available for writers. I’m writing about topics that interest me. I’m challenging myself to do more creative writing. What’s helping me keep consistency on the blog is setting boundaries for the writer self of blogging. The writer self needs time off from the internet to actually write, to find inspiration, and jot down ideas. The process of writing for the blog is becoming more precious, thoughtful, and structured. (I have to admit that I sometimes feel like I could have written better and more detailed blog posts had I spent more time working on them without the deadline.)

The Passing of Time

Last weekend, I talked to dad and told him how time has been going by fast. The days blur. He was surprised to hear this from me. I think that it’s because I complain so much about my job: he probably thought I don’t enjoy it as much as I do. Life at work, the school year blur into one day of routine. It feels like just yesterday I was still learning the names of students.

As for my weekends, I think it’s best I try to spend them less online and more time on living my life. I forget that I have to power to make my life as interesting as the Youtubers I love. I’d also like to get back to reading and being disciplined with reading as this always seems to help me become a better writer even without me consciously applying a new writing strategy.

The routine of the 40-day work week is finally sinking in, and the time I spend outside of work is becoming more precious. I often wonder who and where I’ll be in five, ten, fifteen years. It’s clear to me that I might or might not live a long life, and I want to make the most of the time I have to live.

What’s the Perfect Writer Path?

I know that I want to keep writing, so I’m sticking to the blogging schedule. I still find it crazy to know that people actually take time out of their days to read my writing. And I’m continually inspired by all of the writers out there, especially the ones who make a living out of this passion.

In reflection, one of the things that I don’t like about being a writer is the loneliness of it. I think that’s one of the reason why being a full-time writer doesn’t keep my attention. However, I’m curious to learn how other writers form their writing careers while remaining active members of their communities and the world, passionate about the craft, but not isolated. Do you also have that stereotypical image of the writer as someone who spends a lot of time by themselves and has a tendency to become a recluse?

Regrets of the dying

I know that I can’t predict the future, but if someone were to ask me at my dying bed, what is your deepest regret? I think it would be not following the call to be a writer. And so, I want to keep writing and sharing my writing on the blog. I have hope that this will help me find a writing path that works for me.

April 19, 2019, Friday, Online Journal Entry

Lost Dreams

Dreams are meaningful and achievable, but what happens to the dreams we lose sight of, the dreams that take second place?

Two of the dreams that I’ve lost over the years were the goal of become fluent in other languages and the dream of looking beautiful by achieving beauty standards.

Learning languages

I remember going to French classes in community college excited for class. I loved how Madame Sullivan taught us to pronounce words like boulangerie, one of my most favorite things in the world. Did someone say bread?

I only took two courses with her, and that was the end of a structured and formal language-learning experience. Languages continued to spark my interest.

Throughout the years, I’ve attempted to learn other languages through Youtube videos, Duolingo, and Mango Languages but never with the discipline I had when taking those French classes. The dream of becoming fluent in other languages was lost, if only until that dream takes first place again.

Looking “beautiful”

Photo by Lisa Fotios from Pexels

Looking beautiful is subjective because we see beauty differently. Beauty depends on culture, time periods, and preferences.

There’s a video called “Beauty Standards Around the World” which shows the differences in how we perceive beauty. A woman asks people from around the world to photoshop her photo and make her beautiful. Some go for made-up looks while others keep her face natural.

Looking beautiful had been, if not one of my conscious goals, a subconscious one. I found myself surrounded by people judging others and me on all types of things like weight, clothes, hair, and nails.

Over the years, I’ve known the pain of getting my lip waxed and eyebrows threaded. Looking beautiful means painful, expensive, and time-consuming experiences of which most of time I have no patience or interest for.

I have a big nose that I have no intention of ever having surgery on. So looking “beautiful” in the eyes of society became another lost dream.

If there was a lesson from this lost dream, it helped me redefine “beauty” to include the beauty that radiates from within as cliche as it sounds. Beauty shines through our eyes, personalities, and actions.