What matters most in life?

I’m so grateful that I had the good fortune to be in quarantine with my family. Since I’ve been living off of my suitcase in the past weeks, I’ve been thinking about the few belongings that I brought with me.

I always come back to the thought that life is more than our belongings and that our home is more than the physical structures we call home.

Home is where we find warmth, love, laughter. Not necessarily where we eat together, but the fact that we get to eat together. Even if we bicker every now and then 🙂

These times have got me reflecting over what matters most in life? Among other questions like what does it mean to be successful in life? & what does it mean to have a successful day?

What matters most in life are our internal states of being and what we learn from the lessons of life. If you nourish your inner self and keep your mind, heart ❤️, and body healthy and balanced, your presence makes a peaceful, loving difference wherever you go. 


Photo of “suitcase” by Anete Lūsiņa on Unsplash & photo of “man with sky background” by Subham Dash from Pexels

take one step towards your happiness

stop overcomplicating your happiness. Keep happiness simple.

Often times, you think that you need to do or have something major to feel happiness in your life.

Happiness is about the small choices you make day by day.

Personally, when happiness doesn’t feel close at hand, I choose to feel (what to me is the next best feeling) peace 🕊️.

Even though feeling peace isn’t the same as feeling happiness, it gets me one step closer to happiness.

Gabby Bernstein says that no matter how you are feeling, you can work on experiencing the next best feeling on the scale of emotions.

For example, if you’re feeling frustrated or irritated you can make it your goal to feel contentment. Versus trying to go from feeling frustration to joy in one jump.

what’s one step you can take today towards your happiness?

Here are some ideas:

  • Read an inspiring book.
  • Have lunch with a friend.
  • Dedicate time to your hobby.
  • Work on a short-term goal that leads towards the manifestation of your dreams.

shout out to Teja 🌞

Since we’re on the topic of happiness, I want to give a shout out to one of my blogging buddies Teja Shankara over at the StarFire Teja blog. Please check out her blog and her latest book 📖 “Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life” (please note that her book is also available on Amazon).

Teja’s book, “Reaching for Orange: Practices, Visualizations, & Blessings to Help You Happy Up Your Life”, includes blessings, practices, visualizations, and reflective questions about life that have been helping me work through my emotions and thoughts throughout the week.

For those of you who don’t know, I’m a middle school teacher, so by this time of the year I’m emotionally and energetically drained.

However, I’ve learned that this doesn’t have to be the case if I take steps, no matter how small, towards keeping a positive mindset, feeling full of energy, and, of course, feeling happy.

One of Teja’s questions, found in the book, led me to the following reflection about life:

The most important lesson my life teaches is that all of the negative things in life lead back to something greater: freedom, connection, wholeness, love, joy, peace, forgiveness, trust, service to others, redemption, grace, abundance.

You can read about the “23 Possible Benefits You May Gain Through Reading Reaching for Orange” over at Teja’s blog StarFire Teja by clicking here.

Don’t ignore what brings you happiness, and don’t sacrifice for your happiness. When you do, you become miserable. Take that one step, no matter how small, towards your happiness today.

do we really get wiser, the older we get?

Martin Luther King Jr. said, the time is always right to do what is right. But isn’t doing the right thing sometimes the most tedious or difficult thing to do?

They say that the older you get, the wiser you become. You become more attuned to what the right thing to do is.

However, I don’t know that we always use our wisdom to help us do the right things and at the right time. I know that I sure don’t because had I done the right things last week, I wouldn’t have had to pay for the consequences twice.

Wisdom teaches you to pay attention to the details or to not leave things for another day. When the time comes to do the right thing, you rely on wisdom to help you discern right from wrong.

11 ways wisdom helps you do the right thing

  1. You stop making the same mistakes and use past experiences to make better decisions. 
  2. You step out of your point of view and take other details into account, so that you can see another’s point of view.
  3. You can look at the situation objectively.
  4. You don’t make decisions based on ego. 
  5. You learn to keep other people’s stories in mind. You understand the deeper reason for why someone acted or said what they did.
  6. You let wisdom guide you when you’re ready to start a project, make a decision, or begin a new journey.
  7. You learn to not just ask any question, but the right question.
  8. You see the truth for what it is. You don’t mask the situation. You stop making it prettier. 
  9. You learn to see the big picture not just the details. And vice versa: the details are just as important as looking at the big picture.
  10. When you do something and others question it, judge you, or look at you weird, you trust the meaning in life that you have found.
  11. No matter what life throws at you, with wisdom, you’re ready to face your problems.

As you get older and as you get wiser, may you keep wisdom at your side to help you know right from wrong. May you also have the strength, discipline, and courage to do the right thing in perfect timing.