How to change your life

On one of the lowest days of my life, when I was surrounded by used tissues and all of the reasons for why my life didn’t have a purpose, I experienced something that has stopped me from falling that low again.

I realized that I was the one chaining myself to those days of hopelessness.

No one was there telling me, there’s no hope for you.

I was the one coming up with all of the excuses to continue being Miserable with a capital M.

That realization helped me understand that you have so much power to change your life story.

Reclaim your power

There’s a sense of powerlessness that exists when you feel trapped by your current reality.

Even though there are always going to be things that are out of your control, there are so many things that are in your hands.

Start by making the next best choice that takes you closer to the life that you truly want to live.

To live with more joy, to live with more hope, start by reclaiming your power. You have the power to choose, to act, to have a say.

Choose growth

There will always be something that will stop you from experiencing self growth: your ego, your failures, your mistakes, your past, your current circumstances.

When you don’t choose growth, you stay stuck, lessons repeat themselves, you experience frustration or unhappiness.

When you choose growth, you see situations through a new perspective. You gain wisdom. You gain freedom. You let go of fear, of limiting beliefs. You return back to a place of love that is without judgement, a place of compassion.

Try again

When a problem appears out of nowhere, when there are changes to adapt to, when nothing is working out, try again.

If you feel yourself coming up with excuses, remember the following quote:

The time is always right to do what is right.

Martin Luther King Jr.

Now is always the perfect time to try again, to come up with a solution, to pick yourself up, to adapt, to change.


When you believe in your power, when you keep wisdom in mind, and when you give yourself the opportunity to try again, life lightens and brightens. You become the key to your hope.

What helps the most during difficult times?

You may be having a really bad day or going through a rough time and it seems like nothing will make it bearable.

I can’t promise that life gets easier. But I can tell you that the during difficult times, holding on to what adds meaning to your life makes a difference.


love

Grow together through love. Care for others and also let yourself be cared for through love. Love is the net that catches you in those moments when you feel like you’re falling apart. 

Love nourishes you. Love presents itself through your love for God, your life, your partner, your friends, your loved ones.

gratitude

Take the moment to notice the great and meaningful things in your life. Find the time to feel gratitude for all that you have in your life such as your loved ones, your experiences, your possessions. 

Often it’s so easy to desire more and more or to see only the lack of things. Remember how really blessed your life already is. 

Make your gratitude visible. Often when we take things for granted we stop forgetting to remind others just how important they are to us.

Dear reader, I’m grateful for you

connection

No matter where you’re at in life, learning how to connect with others will probably be one of the most important skills you can have. Every thing in our lives revolves around communicating, team work, feeling emotions, and learning, not by yourself, but with others.

Whether you’re at work or at home, find time and make the effort to nurture your relationships.

As hard as it is to see  where someone is coming from, sometimes it’s all about deep listening.

Other times it’s about speaking your truth because no one can read your mind. 

Sometimes you think that by speaking up you will anger or distance others. Speaking your truth actually allows for a deeper connection because you share what’s meaningful to you even if it makes you feel vulnerable.


Recently, in reflection, I’ve been thinking about how the rough patches in my past were there to prepare me for life’s next set of challenges.

No matter what life throws at you, love, gratitude, and connection help you through any difficult time or situation when you let them be the foundation of your day and your life.

3 quotes to give you strength to face the day

It happens to all of us. There are days when you don’t feel like your chirpy self. Your perspective of the world feels out of balance. Or you seem to notice mostly the negative things about everything.

It’s totally normal to feel that way. It’s during these times that we need a bit of extra motivation to help us get things done. If you’re looking for motivation to get through the day, today’s post is a round up of 3 quotes to give you strength to face the day.


1. You are enough

Driving back from the library a few weeks ago, I heard a song on the radio that became a favorite. Has this ever happened to you? You’re shopping or listening to an advertisement, and you hear a new song that later becomes a favorite?

Here’s a snippet of the song:

You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing / You say I’m strong when I think I am weak / And You say I am held when I am falling short…

from “You Say” by Lauren Daigle

I found out that the song is called “You Say” by Lauren Daigle who is a Christian music singer. This song is really beautiful and a good reminder of your self worth and of finding strength in God to help you overcome your problems when you’re feeling weak.

2. You are powerful

There’s a quote by Marianne Williamson that I keep copying into every new journal I start. The quote is quite long, but so worth it to keep at hand as a reminder of your inner strength. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us…Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”

from the quote “Our deepest fear” by Marianne Williamson

When Marianne talks about this shine, this light, I believe that she is talking about all of the things that make you who you are: your talents, your dreams, your voice, your style, and your signature qualities that make you you. Marianne believes you should embrace your strengths because that’s how you best make your mark on the world.

3. You are strong

“No matter how much we’ve accomplished, we still feel inadequate, unprepared. It’s not surprising. Many of our greatest moments we experience are moments we cannot adequately prepare for, the birth of a child, the death of a loved one.”

from The Opposite of Fate by Amy Tan

In other words, this quote means that no matter how much you do to improve yourself or prepare for the future, there will be days when you may not feel adequately prepared for something. 

You may feel like don’t have the experience, the credentials, the status or the money. You may feel like you’re not ready to take the next step. You may not feel prepared or adequate.

Regardless, you have strength to take the next step. You have the strength to help you overcome the problems in your path.


These quotes were created by people who know what it’s like to need that extra motivation to start the day, to find the confidence to start a difficult conversation, or to help them during a time of grief. May these quotes be the encouragement, support, and reminder that you are going to make it through!