3 Ways to Love Yourself More

Loving your life starts with loving and accepting everything that is you. Accept your imperfections. Be loyal to your joys. Be patient with yourself during times of self growth.

Loving your life starts by loving the world within yourself.

The inner story you tell yourself on a daily basis reflects in the outer world. Keep your inner self, your inner world healthy.

Hold higher standards for yourself

Set higher standards for yourself. If you think you deserve this, how about believing you deserve something even better?

Don’t fall in the trap of settling for less. Of thinking that you’ll never have what you dream of. Of thinking why bother?

Every single moment you have the power to create the life you dream of. Even though some things are out of your control, so much of your reality depends on your choices.

Let your choices reflect the best things you desire for yourself. Every time you choose your dreams, you’re going to meet some type of resistance: excuses, low self-esteem, the thought it’s impossible, criticism, or impatience.

You’re worthy of your grandest dreams. And your grandest dreams need your faith, loyalty, and patience.

Take care of yourself

Take better care of yourself. Prioritize your body, mental, and emotional health.

Take the steps that lead you back to health. When you feel really stressed take a break. When you feel overwhelmed, simplify your to-do list.

Become aware of your body. Have you been sitting or lying down for too long? Are you feeling stressed? Are you repressing your emotions?

Stand up. Stretch. Breathe in. Breath out.

Be compassionate with yourself

Train your mind to notice even your smallest accomplishments. Train yourself to be loving and compassionate to yourself.

Fill yourself up with encouraging thoughts like I did my best today and leave the day at that. Stop the overthinking about how your day could have gone better.

When things don’t look bright on the outside or in the inside, be fully there for yourself.

If you feel frustrated, feel frustrated. Feel lazy. Feel worried. These emotions indicate your next step.

  • Let your frustrations out of your system. Write down your frustrations or share them with someone.
  • Let yourself have a lazy day. Enjoy a day off: the dirty dishes, the laundry can wait.
  • Explore your worry. As you do, come up with possible solutions and accept what you can’t change.

Do you tell yourself that you deserve better or do you settle for less? Do you take care of your mental, emotional and physical health? Are you the first to be there for yourself during your lows?

When should you practice self care?

And how much self care is enough? Do your self-care practices look different on weekdays versus the weekends?

Then there’s the question of when does self care turn into laziness? Or when does self care turn into an excuse to avoid things in your life?

What’s not up for question, though, is that self-care practices help you refresh.

Since I’m an introvert and a highly sensitive person, self-care practices are a must. I’m of no help when I haven’t had time to rest and relax after the hustle drains my energy.

So when should you practice self care?

I have found that in order to keep yourself balanced, you must practice self care at the right time–before the stress, overwhelm, or burnout gets out of control.

You should practice self-care in the following instances:

1. When you’re working your butt off

When you give your best effort in all areas of your life, whether it’s caring for your family or working over-time, you’re bound to feel stress, pressure, or overwhelm.

Communicating and collaborating with people requires you to be alert, open, and focused. There’s a need for a positive attitude, or, in the least, a flexible attitude.

Self-care keeps you centered while you hustle.

2. When you’re going through a lot

There are phases in your life when you need to be extra gentle with yourself.

For example, when you experience times of change or grief, practicing self care helps you come to terms with change or loss.

When you have a lot going on, practicing self care helps you become aware of what’s important so that you stop causing yourself unnecessary stress.

3. When you’re preparing for the upcoming hustle

Preparing for the upcoming hustle is just as important as refreshing yourself after the hustle.

When you prepare for the upcoming hustle, you prioritize feeling balanced, recharged, and refreshed so that you can be your best self and give your best work when it’s time to hustle again.

No matter what your self-care practices look like or how much time you need to reenergize, don’t ignore the signs telling you that you need a self-care break.

Enjoy These 5 Benefits of Solitude

Check in with yourself: Do you feel like you need some alone time?

If your first thought is you’re selfish for focusing on yourself, choosing solitude will strengthen your relationships. It will help you let go of your expectations of the world so that you are better able to connect with everyone in your life.

Or if you think that you don’t have time for solitude, choosing solitude will help you become intentional with your time and commitments. Your actions and words will stem from a place of wisdom, connectedness, and presence. You’ll find time for what matters most to you.

Rediscover Yourself

Alone with all that is you, you who knows yourself best, you know when it is time to let go of who you thought you were.

Have you ever found so much strength within yourself only to find, in the future, more and more strength to face life’s challenges?

Have you ever held a belief about yourself only to find that it no longer applies to you? You feel different. You begin to look, talk, and walk with more hope or with a newfound lightness.

Rediscovering yourself isn’t about turning into a brand new you. It’s about remembering your authentic qualities. Those that get diminished when you try to fit in by pretending to be someone that you’re not.

Reconnect with Your Values

Strip away the buzz, the voices from the outer world, and you begin to hear the buzz of your thoughts. You begin to feel the emotions and thoughts that you put aside because of life’s busyness.

In this stripping away from worldly expectations and in giving all of your thoughts and emotions your full attention, notice where your actions do not align with your values.

Do you ever think the following: I should be doing this because that’s the only way I’ll be successful or loved or seen? But deep inside you, your intuition tells you that there’s another way to do things, that there’s a better way to live.

What do you value the most in life? Do you value peace, love, or health? Are your words, habits, and choices aligned with your personal values?

If you value growth, are you letting yourself grow from your experiences? Or are you still stuck in the past?

Strengthen Your Relationship with God

If you’re not careful, life’s demands can take you away from your center, from your relationship with God. Over and over, God has wisdom and support available for you.

When you nurture your relationship with God, God fills your mind and heart with peace, confidence, and hope. Your connection to God helps you stick to your life values and purpose with more clarity and resoluteness.

Feel Deeper Appreciation for Relationships

Time alone gives you time for reflection and introspection which allows you to accept your humanity. And when you see yourself as someone who makes mistakes, who hurts, who fails, and who yearns for this or that, you’re more forgiving and understanding of others.

You begin to see how we are all made up of inner worlds that shape who we are, how we act, and how we present ourselves to the world. You’re always ready to accept, care, support, understand, and forgive.

Let Go and Receive

During solitude, you feel, hear, and experience things with more presence. You then receive personalized life messages that help you grow and heal.

These life messages are truths and wisdom that come into your life when you really need to hear them. Life messages can be anything from take care of your body to open your heart to trust.

Take care of your body. Open your heart. Trust.

If you take in those life messages, you let go of the beliefs and ideas that no longer serve you. You stop overworking to find time for your health. You learn to love without expecting someone else to be perfect. You let go of worry, and you trust completely in how things unfold before you.

As selfish as solitude sounds and as hard is it is to make time for solitude, choosing solitude doesn’t only benefit you. It benefits all of the people in your life and the world.

After solitude, you experience the world in a meaningful and profound way. You see the thread that connects us all instead of separation. You reconnect with the parts of yourself that need more space to shine. You begin to act in a way that feels purposeful and true to you.

May you make time to reconnect with your self and choose what makes you feel full of life.