how to have self worth

your self worth presents itself in all areas of your life. If you’re self worth is low, your standards for how the world treats you will also be low.

You won’t feel worthy of nourishing relationships or fulfilling jobs. You won’t feel worthy of your dream life. 

(I wanted to try something something different, so I went looking for GIFs for this week’s batch of posts. Please let me know what you think.)

When it’s time to change your perspective on how you view yourself, you will find yourself focusing on love, becoming disciplined, and setting healthy boundaries in all areas of your life.

love 💖

Focus on all of the love that is already present in your life, not the absence of it. Who are the people who love you unconditionally?

Develop a healthy sense of self love. Respect, discipline, be gentle, accept, and care for yourself and your needs.

If you believe in God, remember how much God loves you.

You are so worthy of love. Everyone is worthy of love no matter your background, your mistakes, your failures, what you look like, or your flaws.

Love is abundant and unconditional. Love is never lost.   

be disciplined

When you start feeling worthy of the life of your dreams, you understand that manifesting your dream life takes the every-day type of discipline not the once-in-a-blue-moon discipline 🗓.

Personally, this has not always been my favorite or fun part, but I can tell you from my experience that learning to have discipline is so worth it. 

Being disciplined helps you become who you want to become. It helps you achieve your goals, and it helps you work for the things that you want.

set healthy boundaries

When you feel a healthy sense of self worth, you treat yourself with respect. You also teach others how to treat you.

When you have self worth you draw a line on what experiences and people you accept into your life.

You stop sacrificing for experiences and relationships that don’t bring you joy or that don’t nourish you.

Developing a sense of self worth will help you value yourself when you look at yourself in the mirror. This healthy sense of self worth will help you when it’s time to switch jobs or form new relationships.

When you’re ready to make decisions, you will choose what takes you closer to your dream vision of yourself and your life because you are worthy of them.

To strengthen your self worth, focus on love. Stick with discipline even when it feels routine. And choose only what nourishes and brings you joy.

You Are Good Enough

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What do you do with the negative inner monologue? With thoughts like I’m not good enough? When they become present, I’ve been getting better at letting those thoughts be while not accepting them as my truth.

In connection to this topic of self-worth, I want to share some insight I got from watching a YouTube video called “Texting Your Crush (Inside Juanpa Ep. 1)”. It reminded me of the movie Inside Out which focuses on the emotions of joy, fear, anger, disgust, and sadness and how these affect our lives.

In the video, Boss, Flirty, Sensitive, Cool, Cold-heart, and Intern Juanpas exist in the mind of human Juanpa. Juanpa takes us inside his head to show the internal process of texting a crush. (Note: Juanpa Zurita is a Mexican Youtuber known for vlogging and comedy skits.)

Insecure Juanpa stood out to me because he reminded me of my insecure self. When he gets a text from Lele his crush, Insecure Juanpa says, “We don’t deserve this girl or this opportunity.” Throughout the video the negativity mostly comes from Insecure Juanpa while all of the other Juanpas try to secure a date with Lele.

Even after Lele agrees to go out, Insecure Juanpa tries to get in the way by typing, “I am not worth it.” At this point, the other Juanpas rush to stop him from texting this to Lele.

Seeing Insecure Juanpa on screen was a reminder of how we all have different sides of ourselves. Juanpa without his personas seems super friendly, down to earth, funny, happy, and confident. It took me some time to get used to Insecure Juanpa because that’s not the side Juanpa shares with his viewers as an actor and entertainer.

So this got me thinking how at the end of the the day it’s not our insecure selves that gets things done. For me, it’s usually my determined or preserving side that lets me get things done.

Seeing all of Juanpa’s sides of himself working together made me think that there’s no need to fire the Insecure Self from their job. When the negative inner monologue becomes loud, we need to remember to let the other sides of ourselves push us forward.

How do you handle negative inner monologue? What are your thoughts on negative inner monologue?